By: Lee Hirsch
The Weinstein Co.
Anchor Bay Entertainment
I discovered this documentary from an Amazon.com recommendation based on my past purchases. I usually don’t buy movies. I just rent them on Netflix.I saw this movie on the shelf at Sam’s Club, when I was looking for items for my business. I decided to go ahead and get this movie.
I learned a lot from this documentary.
Summary of the documentary:
Teenagers who are bullied are covered in this documentary. It follows three teens and the story of one (11-year-old boy) who committed suicide due to bullying. These stories take place in: Iowa, Oklahoma, Georgia, and Mississippi. However, cases like this are happening all across the United States and even possibly around the world.Here are some of the bullying issues that are happening:
- Threats of violence
- Actual physical violence: poking, shoving kids, hitting, strangled
- Have things knocked out of their hands
- Take items from them
- Take clothes in P.E. class so child has to walk naked to get them back
- Mental abuse
Here are how teens who are bullied feel:
- Feel like outcasts
- Feel like it isn’t getting better
- Don’t feel welcomed or accepted
- Feel like nothing is getting better
- Feel targeted
Here is how some teens deal with it:Thinking about cutting self, some do cut self, thinking about suicide, attempt suicide, one child in the documentary did commit suicide. Some want to become a bully themselves.
Some teens could benefit from:
Learning how to communicate better/ express selves
Building self-esteem and self-confidence
Here are some solutions:
The best solution reminds me of Mahatma Gandhi's quote, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Change isn’t going to happen overnight. I think change must start from inside the teen culture. Any one teen can start to make a difference and be a change agent for the good. It will be a long process
Some of my ideas (based on my experience working with teens and from the movie)
- Validate how the teen is feeling and not discredit her (or his emotions)
- Promote acceptance of others. Be inclusive and welcoming
- Help teen to build social support and friendships
- Provide unconditional support
- Start a Make a difference club or organization that accepts all kids.
- Teach kids to be a friend to a kid in need.
- Teach kids to help them out.
Here is the link for the movie:
Here is a link to the web-site:http://www.thebullyproject.com/
Here is a link to my Kindness Card Game Project that attempts to decrease bullying by promoting pro-social behaviors: